I notice I feel attracted to every single guy on the street. Just yesterday I made eye contact with a girl while talking and the dreaded attraction feeling hit and I suddenly felt really anxious and wanted to leave. 1. you are far more mature than i was at 15 when i first developed this. I think I had a false attraction as well. It is not intended to be and should not be interpreted as medical advice or a diagnosis of any health or fitness problem, condition or disease; or a recommendation for a specific test, doctor, care provider, procedure, treatment … Online. Due to this hocd I started to feel something for ppl I hated before this hocd shit. These facts alone should help straight HOCD folks to see that they are indeed straight. New comments cannot be posted and votes cannot be cast. I can think I am a multi billionaire if I want, but unfortunately that’s not true. 100% Upvoted. I also did it many times. Bisexuals with HOCD have the false fear that they are attracted to only one sex, usually the one they are not currently involved with. Discussion. It was so distressing I was so pissed at myself. You just have to accept your attractions, but not give them focus. Leave A Reply. I keep telling myself that if I was bi or a lesbian, I would have a specific type of who I liked (just like I did with men). One of the most difficult parts of this has been my loss of attraction. Close. Members. Tell your brain, you know it's full of shit. HOCD is also known as Gay OCD or Sexual Orientation OCD (SO-OCD). There are days when this thing seems stupid and there are days I am convinced I am a lesbian. HOCD stands for Homosexual Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder, also known as Sexual Orientation OCD, and is a form of OCD where the person experiences intrusive thoughts in relation to their sexual preference.These unwanted thoughts, which are known as obsessions, cause distress to the person and result in the compulsion to check that … Sort by. I started thinking what else is out of my control, and I realized the food I enjoy and don’t enjoy is one of them. Hey, false attractions are the worst for me too. The site may not work properly if you don't, If you do not update your browser, we suggest you visit, Press J to jump to the feed. What is HOCD? Every thought, feeling, and physical sensation you experience that has even the slightest connection (or seeming connection) to sexuality or attraction is scrutinized through your HOCD “filter”. Jan 28 in HOCD. Has anyone else had this problem or have any advice?? Focus on what your ego prefers, then you'll feel good. I am just a guy that has been to hell and back with HOCD an this is my story. Essentially, it tries to trick us. Well, why would you only want 30%-50% cure for OCD? then looked at my phone. I appreciate a beautiful women and sometimes her personality, now I can't feel anything it's numb. I’ve been taking my meds and talking to my therapist but I just feel this lack of motivation inside me. Question. False attraction? i would also like to point out that inbetween the 2 last times ive suffered the same sex attraction was completely gone. Hi friends I know the feeling believe me i used to be there the false attraction the constant analyzing of past and the checking wooh it's been a hell for nearly 9 months but i've beat it in a month and half and i'm proud of myslef now i can enjoy life, there is simple tricks yet very effective i applied it found it in a book on the internet called 'Beat HOCD the easy way'. HOCD, false attractions anyone? i just woke up and i looked at the tv and a beautiful actor was there. Join. now i’m convinced i’m in love with her when i used to find her annoying ‍♀️ what helps false attraction? I lost my attraction to females and looking back I never had a "preference" in women I enjoyed looking at all them. Join date: Apr 2015. hocd false attraction towards friend!! Laugh at the HOCD, tell it 'lol, you can't fool me. It is just a thought that I am capable of thinking. I find myself checking out their bodies more, something I never used to do. If you are gay, your gay thoughts will be associated with pleasure rather than with fear (although you might experience anxiety about the social repercussions of “coming out”). Hi everyone. Posted by 3 months ago. 27 May 2015 - 15:04. This thread is archived. Created Mar 18, 2013. And sadly, that filter never fails to twist and distort everything to make it appear as “evidence” that you’re really gay after all. The Content on this Site is presented in a summary fashion, and is intended to be used for educational and entertainment purposes only. Now that I think about it i dont feel that way about that girl. The obsessive thoughts are unpredictable and provoke extreme anxiety that leads us to believe we'll never have control of our thoughts. OCD (Obsessive Compulsive Disorder) is a psychological condition that hijacks the brain, forcing us to think unwanted, 'obsessive' thoughts and perform behaviors to reduce anxiety associated with these thoughts called 'compulsions.' I think the best help would be to disregard. If you have HOCD and are feeling aroused, this is not evidence that your thoughts are true, it is just the nature of HOCD. I don’t know who I am anymore. 0. Your brain wants to bully you, and this stress causes low libido hence why you can't get aroused like you want to, causing you to stress out more when you can't get aroused over what you want. False attraction - attraction that your ego does not prefer. I’m worried this feeling will never pass and I’m alone in these compulsions and hopelessness. Generally, these sensations give false signals that the person perceives as being important and because they are physical sensations, the person generally assigns tremendous importance and validity to these sensations, because they “feel” them. Even bad ppl. That puts us in a constant state of worry – a defense mechanism set up by our mind. I don’t even feel an attraction when I do this, I think it may just be a compulsion to see whether or not I like it. I’ve been dealing with HOCD for a little over a year now. This sub is for anyone with OCD who have sexual orientation or gender related obsessions including HOCD, TOCD, and Sexual Orientation OCD. thank you. I’ve been dealing with HOCD for a little over a year now. It causes relentless questioning of one’s sexual orientation via the intrusive thoughts that are characteristic of OCD. Okay so basically right now is the worst ever!! like when this all started a few months ago my anxiety level was waay up, now it scares me that my anxiety isn’t there, you get me? That's what I have started to do. You are at a party - you cant tell the difference between real attraction and hocd? For men, this can be just a feeling, or having an erection. The obsessive thoughts are unpredictable and provoke extreme anxiety that leads us to believe we'll never have control of our thoughts. Thought I would share the dialogue. HOCD related thoughts are just thoughts. False attraction. 48. It is not intended to be and should not be interpreted as medical advice or a diagnosis of any health or fitness problem, condition or disease; or a recommendation for a specific test, doctor, care provider, procedure, treatment … If you have HOCD, doubt about your sexuality reflects an OCD-related “false alarm” that has nothing to do with your actual sexual orientation. I can recognize when a guy is good looking but I don’t feel that same attraction I used to. Homosexual OCD – HOCD Treatment. This sub is for anyone with OCD who have sexual orientation or gender related obsessions including HOCD, TOCD, and Sexual Orientation OCD. HOCD (Homosexual OCD) is ostensibly a variant of OCD in which the sufferer obsesses about being gay. Press question mark to learn the rest of the keyboard shortcuts. So I applied my HOCD thoughts to food and it seemed so funny to me. Obviously the doctors dont know the real hell and complete torment of OCD, especially HOCD. ... more false attraction, more anxiety. its not sexual but its definatly an attraction none the less. Today's video is all about false attraction and why it happens when dealing with HOCD. And that thought never came back. Members: 36355 and Growing! For women, this can be feeling sexually aroused. Homosexual Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (HOCD) is categorized by intrusive thoughts revolving around one’s sexual orientation.People with HOCD suffer through uncontrollable and unwanted intrusive thoughts and images that leave them in a state of fear and anxiety about whether they are truly straight. To overcome HOCD, one has to really understand how OCD works. Hey guys! Yep, me exactly. at night especially i feel so awful, i cry a lot but then numbness takes over again..to add to that, my only relationship i had (which lasted for three days lol..i guess it was more of a first try, i really liked the guy, not loved, the relationship was kinda rushed and i didn’t feel ready)but he had no idea how to kiss and it felt so disgusting, i enjoyed him being around and stuff but not the kissing, which just added more to my anxiety and apart from that i’m afraid that now it’s going to be the same for every boy i like in the future, in fact i have a crush on this guy but he rejected me, and i still love him, but i’m just afraid it’s all a mask and that i’ll never enjoy my future relationships and kissing, i never thought this before until my (what i hope is)hocd started.. When we fear something, we start to see it everywhere/all the time. Then u will see it won't bother to again. HOCD and loss of attraction. For women, this can be feeling sexually aroused. Looks like you're using new Reddit on an old browser. Literally say it out loud. saw a youtuber. 15. In the case of HOCD, the mind fabricates “false attractions” and lies. And sadly, that filter never fails to twist and distort everything to make it appear as “evidence” that you’re really gay after all. Attraction being one of them. Request group membership. This is embarrassing to write but I’m not sure where else to turn for support. hal133 . share. If you have HOCD and are feeling aroused, this is not evidence that your thoughts are true, it is just the nature of HOCD. It has been incredibly hard and caused me to lose my sense of self, my confidence, and my hope. Feeling aroused down there – in your groin. I'm a male and I do the same thing except with men. Homosexual OCD can be … I get this too. I can recognize when a guy is good looking but I don’t feel that same attraction I used to. Question. OCD (Obsessive Compulsive Disorder) is a psychological condition that hijacks the brain, forcing us to think unwanted, 'obsessive' thoughts and perform behaviors to reduce anxiety associated with these thoughts called 'compulsions.' deleted_user 01/18/2014. After the worst phase of hOCD ended I got my attraction and sexual interest back and it is now the same as it used to be before my OCD. I'm properly worried that I'm attracted to my best friend!! I hope we all get through this! i was and am the same age as you. The other hard part has been finding every female I pass attractive. Unfortunately, the numerous myths and misconceptions surrounding HOCD lead to this condition being poorly understood, under-reported, and ineffectively treated. I made a similar post yesterday, but i didn't really get any answers, so here i go again. Due to this hocd I started to feel something for ppl I hated before this hocd shit. This false attraction kills me :( I don’t like it and it’s only make me really bad and anxious but still it feels real. It has been incredibly hard and caused me to lose my sense of self, my confidence, and my hope. So glad I found this group! False attraction? I feel so numb. Thanks: 3. Like say yes u like her. i do that too..i can’t even fo outside now without noticing females(i’m a girl)and it kinda scares me but my feelings are numb. Press J to jump to the feed. I've had hocd for a few months now, the thoughts aren't as frequent as they used to but now instead of "maybe I'm gay" it's like sometimes I'm certain of it. It happens to me alot of times. good on you! How I started looking at HOCD: There’s plenty of things that are out of our control. I’ve done so much research and haven’t found much on false hocd attraction. You are at a party - you cant tell the difference between real attraction and hocd? Every thought, feeling, and physical sensation you experience that has even the slightest connection (or seeming connection) to sexuality or attraction is scrutinized through your HOCD “filter”. ... False attraction - attraction that your ego does not prefer. One of the most difficult parts of this has been my loss of attraction. HOCD Support Group. I feel so empty. I know who I am". False attraction. A doctor will give you prescriptions that statistics show only have a maximum capacity to treat 30%-50% of your OCD. False attraction? Today's video is all about false attraction and why it happens when dealing with HOCD. HOCD (homosexual obsessive compulsive disorder) is a subgroup of Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD). How do you tell the difference between real groinal responses and false anxiety groinal responses? Feeling aroused down there – in your groin. incase you couldn tbe bothered to read all i will ask again here, does hocd give weird attractions to the same sex? absolutely. 6 posts • Page 1 of 1. by FSBHM » Mon May 06, 2019 12:16 am . ... help Reddit App Reddit coins Reddit premium Reddit gifts. Cookies help us deliver our Services. You just have to accept your attractions, but not give them focus. report. It doesn't matter what he looks like. save. This sub is for anyone with OCD who have sexual orientation or gender related obsessions including HOCD, TOCD, and Sexual Orientation OCD. and i felt anxiety. HOCD is the shortened name of a rare form of obsessive-compulsive disorder, termed homosexual obsessive-compulsive disorder, or sometimes called “gay OCD” or "sexual orientation OCD.". hide. HOCD is an illness, and who but a gay HOCD sufferer would fear being straight, the thing society prizes? 123Peanut Consumer 0 Posts: 6 Joined: Mon Jun 13, 2016 3:49 am Local time: Fri Feb 05, 2021 8:14 am Blog: View Blog (0) I also find myself more hyper sensitive to females. SLJ94. is great to know that i’m not the only one. Also I have a question about the groinal aspect as well. Ugly or good looking , I never used to do this. But then I remember I also used to get this with family members, strangers, friends and I once again remember it is ocd and not me. Of course, like most subtypes of OCD, it’s a lot more complicated than that. It makes me sad and worried that I’ll never feel that way again. like every girl i interact with i have to check out and i feel disgusted by that, like my brain keeps on telling me yeah you’re attracted and want to kiss her but i know i’m not! For men, this can be just a feeling, or having an erection. Hey guys! By using our Services or clicking I agree, you agree to our use of cookies. New comments cannot be posted and votes cannot be cast. i'm 22 now and it still bothers me from time to time! What is the difference between hocd false attraction and real attraction.